Momof3darlings

2013-14 Company Audition Journey (US and Canada)

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Share your auditioning experiences and frustrations. (See Company congrats thread for sharing good news)

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Good morning all! As a mom of a daughter who is finishing her final year with a 2nd company and trying to make the leap to apprenticeship or corps, I am so stressed for her!!! It feels like we are swirling in the abyss of the unknown right now. It is a very tricky timing situation between trying to get audition invites, permission to go if and when those invites come, and waiting and wondering when contracts will go out; knowing that we will be last to know if there is a spot available for her where she is now. Please tell me there are other moms and dads out there worrying with me. :wallbash: Whew! That feels a bit better letting it out. :)

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Not quite in the same boat as you flballetmom, but boy do I feel you! :flowers: We are making our way navigating the beginning of that journey - the company/2nd company/trainee/apprentice searches. There seem to be so many places to try and audition, but so many dvds to send, and then to wait until you even get invited to attend an audition and if you can go! Traveling all over if necessary, and just not even knowing what will happen. Or to have to go a summer somewhere just to be looked at, with no guarantee of getting into that position. It's enough to make your head spin just thinking about it! It's been great to have this board to prepare us, but I'm not sure you're ever prepared enough to go through it. My comfort - that she will have places to fall back on, even though it may not be her first choice, and may be another year of preparation. Given this, I'm still doing the same thing you are: :wallbash:

You are NOT alone!!!!!

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flballetmom,

 

There are many, many of us who have been in your shoes and it never gets easier. The abyss of the unknown is a scary place but one that is quite familiar to all dancers.

 

Even though dd never did the 2nd company route, there is the annual worry that the contract won't be renewed or that dancers will be laid off. The next job hunt is never far away. I'm not sure it ever gets easier for parents but I think dancers learn to accept that the unknown is always around their corner. The audition gear is never put away. The next adventure always awaits. Dancers can choose to look at the vicissitudes of the journey as an adventure or a burden. I think those who have an outlook that is equally weighted between optimism and reality have the best chance of survival. As parents, we can only help nurture that outlook (heaven knows we've already emptied our bank accounts!)

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Yes, I should remember it was scary 2 years ago when she made the move to 2nd company. I guess each level up is one more step towards accomplishment but also an added layer of stress. It all comes with the territory. Thanks for the support and feedback. It is nice to have others to share the parent side of things - for the most part she is the one driving the ship and I am just on the other end of the phone - letting it out opens the window of perspective. I will keep everyone posted when the storm subsides and she lands somewhere. :)

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I'm feeling very much like a travel agent these days! Between researching plane fares and hotels, at least it gives me something to do that's more productive than simply worrying, and my daughter can focus on all of the other details involved. Over time, I'm sure she'll want to take those tasks on as well, but for now I can still be useful in some way. It sure would be nice if she were old enough to rent a car. :yes:

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yeah, been there - and now again. :)

 

It does not get easier, really. It just becomes a bit more "routine".

 

My older DD is staying where she is; the younger one is out on the "trail" and also finishing studies, making scheduling an art.

 

"Merde" to all those out there looking for jobs!!

 

-d-

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It sure would be nice if she were old enough to rent a car. :yes:

 

Along those lines, especially in the states,for those under 18 (and in some hotels, 21), an adult must be the one making the reservation and must accompany the minor. Make sure to check the hotel policies to make sure your dk can actually stay at the hotel without an adult in the room! There is something that just isn't right about a young dancer looking for a real job when they aren't even old enough to stay in a hotel room without an adult. :crying:

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Yikes--we haven't faced the hotel issue yet but will within the next few weeks. I would have expected it for under 18, but 21? Thanks for that tip.

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Yep, we have run into the hotel issue too. Check the hotel's "fact sheet" for details. I think all (or nearly all) hotels have one on the website.

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It does not get easier, really. It just becomes a bit more "routine".

 

And that pretty much sums it up quite nicely!

 

Hope things level out soon flballetmom and all others who don't yet know what next year/season will bring.

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There is also the problem of trying to get reservations for a hotel or hostel without a credit-card online.

 

I have been the victim of fraud twice (!) using a credit-card online to make reservations, each time from a supposedly "secure" site, and so I do not have a card anymore. This does make things very difficult, as my DDs also have no card - they do not earn enough for that.

 

In the "olden days" one could phone up and make a reservation without putting a bit of money down. -sigh-

 

At least "over here" there is not that problem with people being too young to check into a hotel alone! (if they are 18 at least - not sure how it is for a hostel)

 

 

-d-

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Oh, Diane! Fraud, twice? Yikes! My dd uses her debit card mostly through sites like expedia or booking.com or goes directly through the hotels and hasn't had a problem (knock wood). Sometimes her European debit card won't work and she uses a credit card that is linked to a US savings account. I actually worry more about the debit card because I don't know if it has fraud protection. The credit card she uses does have this feature and she had a fraudulent charge on it once when she was a student and with fraud protection, she didn't have to pay for the charge.

 

DD hasn't had a problem with being 18 and staying in a hostel or hotel in Europe. It was actually a shock to her that the rules in the US meant that she had to have an "adult" with her. In most cases, this meant an 18 year old (dd was 17 when she was auditioning) and her best friend was 18 but in some cases, her very adult mom (me) had to come along. sigh... more expense but at least a chance to spend time together!

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I have heard a recommendation from a financial affairs specialist to have one credit card that you ONLY use online. That way, if there is fraud, it is easily cancelled and replaced without affecting your day-to-day credit card. I understand your needs might be different in Europe, where I gather it's possible to buy everything (including online) with a bank debit card.

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Be very careful about using debit cards for travel arrangements. You might have overdraft protection, but not all have fraud protection as credit cards usually do. A coworker's daughter was burnt by this when she used her debit card to book international travel through one of the price-shopping websites.

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