Occasionally, we remind our membership that amongst ourselves on BT4D, we strive to treat each other with the respect and politeness of a Victorian Tea Party. We try hard to show more respect and politeness in our conversations than the average studio lobby (or teacher's lounge). We all come to Ballet Talk for Dancers to learn more about ballet, to discuss ballet and/or to find camaraderie among those whose lives mirror our own or those of our dancers. We also come hoping to learn, and thereby, understand more about this wonderful and crazy thing that is Ballet, be it as a parent, a teacher, an adult dancer or a young dancer.
We also come with hopes of a little anonymity (or the veil of such) so that we can ask sometimes difficult or sensitive questions, speak our minds, engage in conversation, and review experiences without fear of reprisals in the ‘real world’. It is something we actively choose do here, together, among understanding members. Please respect another member's choice not to reveal too much identifying information, either regarding themselves or their dancer.
In order to maintain a respectful environment for open, trusting sharing, we require that each of us as members be gracious enough to allow our fellow members to speak openly about their personal journeys without the fear of wondering who is looking over their shoulder and who might ‘overhear’.
In other words, as they say in Vegas: What is stated on BT4D is to remain on BT4D!
Collectively, this means our Board’s expectation of mutual respect requires the following protocols be observed and practiced by each member:
1. Discussions begun on BT4D should be discussed on BT4D and are to remain on BT4D. After all, it is a discussion among our members; members who have chosen to share their thoughts, concerns, experiences in this community. These are not discussions being held with the public at large.
We welcome anyone as member of BT4D and to join in our discussions. Please feel free to invite others to do so. However, it is NOT appropriate to copy or link to responses, threads, or whole discussions from BT4D and present them to a third party, either in person or on another website, blog or discussion board WITHOUT the express permission of each poster involved in the BT4D discussion.
If you would like to discuss an issue elsewhere, please do feel free to do so. Just DON’T bring BT4D’s discussion, members’ sharing, or comments into it. Use your own thoughts and words. We will not allow our members’ decisions to discuss their issue here in this community to be usurped without their permission and displayed elsewhere where they are not part of the discussion and did not choose to be.
2. Each member’s first-hand perceptions and experiences are to be valued and respected, not discounted out of hand or challenged. Members are encouraged to give their personal experiences, good AND bad, trusting that our members are savvy enough to understand that one person's awful experience is another's best experience ever. After all, only by comparing and contrasting the views and experiences of ALL five blind men can we really get the full picture of the elephant.
3. The PM (personal messenger) system is for those things that cannot be discussed on the board and not for those things that require a whisper if in a studio lobby.
We believe so strongly in these particular rules and polices that ignoring them is grounds for removal as a member.
The Administrative and Moderating Team at Ballet Talk for Dancers
Member Expectations--Posting, Social Netiquette and Sharing
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