Are my daughter's dreams unrealistic?
Posted 18 August 2012 - 10:32 PM
Posted 19 August 2012 - 05:31 AM
It sounds as if your daughters teachers are wonderful. The only concern is the frequency/duration of instruction time. If they offer more classes, and she can take them, she may be fine for now. Does the school offer more classes at her level?
Also, at 11 you still have time for the dream to change without having to be too realistic. I think that oftentimes, I point things out to dd that end up being unnecessary. Both our girls have plenty of time to change their minds on their own, simply because they're 11!
Posted 19 August 2012 - 12:15 PM
Yes, professional dancers can come out of small schools but only if the quality of the instruction is superb and the quantity of classes are available.
Posted 19 August 2012 - 01:04 PM
Posted 19 August 2012 - 01:38 PM
Posted 19 August 2012 - 05:55 PM
Posted 19 August 2012 - 06:36 PM
In our case, last year, after a year of a greatly reduced salary, my DH was laid off for a month. This put us tens of thousands of dollars behind and we could not afford any classes for our DD. At the same time, DD was accepted into a wonderful, very well known pre-professional school that is an hour away. With the cost of gas, there was no way we could afford to send her. She had to sit out of classes for three months before we found a new studio that is working with us. This new studio is so much better than the studio DD was attending and since it is closer, the cost is much less than the pre-professional school. The training DD is getting at this new studio is what she needs to get her to her desired place. Over the years, things have also worked out where DD has received scholarships for summer intensives and has even been sponsored a few times so there was no cost to us. We haven't been able to send her to an intensive every year, but she has never fallen behind because she hasn't been away every summer. We have found quality classes locally that we could afford.
We have been down the same road as well, wondering if we could afford to let DD follow her dreams and wondering if it was even realistic to continue. I've been at the point of tears many times wondering how we were going to continue to support DD's dream and if we were foolish to do so, so I truly understand how you feel. . This is what she has wanted to do since she was four and although we have tried to get her to go another route, she stays with it. She has always gotten positive feedback and when instructors see her determination and hard work, they want to help her achieve her dreams. At your daughter's age, I'm not sure that one year is going to make that much of a difference, but I am not an instructor so I can't say. You can't go broke as a family while allowing your daughter to pursue her dream. However, there might be some help available through the pre-pro school, or even community organizations in your area. If your daughter hasn't auditioned for the pre-pro school, have her do so. They might be able to work with you on the cost. If not, speak with the instructors at her current studio. Maybe you can work something out with them so your daughter can take the maximum amount of classes for her level. Summer intensives aren't that important right now at your daughter's age, but when she is older, have her audition for all she can afford to do. Some are known for giving a lot of scholarships and you might be pleasantly surprised. Prayer definitely works:)
Posted 19 August 2012 - 08:33 PM
I appreciate all of this wonderful feedback very much!
Posted 20 August 2012 - 08:15 AM
Last, if a professional career doesn't work out for her (which is something everyone has to keep in mind, even those who seem to have every opportunity available to them) she can always enjoy taking class, watching ballet, or perhaps working in some other capacity for a ballet company or other arts institution--there is a great deal of behind-the-scenes work that goes into producing performances!