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  2. dancemaven

    Etiquette on changing studios

    Just be aware that residentials are not panaceas. There are still issues with less dedicated, undedicated students, jealousies, drama, drama queens, casting issues, added on to all the regular social issues and the distance from home coupled with the responsibilities for oneself in daily living, decisions, maturity, etc. DD went to residential when she was just turning 16. She has told me later that she had to “grow up fast” that year. She (and I) was very surprised that there were still dancers uncommitted, looking for excuses to ditch class, slow class down, distract the teachers, etc. The teacher (who had taught all levels everywhere, including college BFAs and was very experiences) I talked most often with about such issues told me “you will find those dancers at every program, regardless where you go.”
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  4. okay so my current studio has only one ballet class a week and doesn’t even have the classes i want and need to get better. i’m debating between two studios. one has an itp program which wouldn’t be available for me to audition for until next year, and everyone seems pretty nice. i took their summer camp intensive and it seems like a good studio but i don’t know, everyone in my age group seems inclusive and all but they kind of stuck with who they know and it made me feel really iffy. they have a russian teacher who has performed as a solosist with the moscow ballet and have really good training. i’d be placed in level 6 which is ages 13-16 about... i’d be either doing pre pointe and point with that and the ballet would be 3 times a week and i’d get a conditioning/pbt class and a stretch/acro class too included in my tuition. the other studio i’ve been taking pre pointe at all summer and they seem super fun to be around and overall seems pretty nice and i don’t get the iffy vibe there which is great. they don’t have an itp type program but i would probably be going into intermediate foundations exam class which is twice a week, a pointe class once a week, and maybe a pre pointe class just to keep working on my ankles, and if i take the exam i have to register for pbt. i also might take contemporary if i can afford it, at the other studio i can’t. and here i might even get a solo, which also means more practice and help along with more performance opportunities. both the studio owners are very good friends so i know they both have similar morals. i just feel so much closer to the second studio i mentioned. but when i go through their instagrams, studio one has been open for three seasons and studio two has been open for one so i have more of knowing the other teachers too with studio one. i’m torn between which studio i should pick!!!! i want to know also which studio seems like it would prepare me better with my personal feelings of where i’m at with each place to get me into a professional career in a ballet company. i am auditioning in october for RWB school since they are coming to my city and i’m planning on also going to the masterclass. any thoughts would be greatly appreciated!!! EDIT: studio one i mentioned for level 6 ballet is actually only be getting one pointe class and the other two days are the acro and conditioning so now i’m leaning towards the other studio since it’s less pricey and has more ballet only levels but i still would like an opinion
  5. rain

    Hi!

    Thank you very much, Victoria! 😀
  6. danceimatter

    Anyone taking the residence plunge this fall?

    We decided on a boarding house that has a house mom.
  7. Taxi dance

    Washington Ballet School

    New information On Washington Ballet’s PTP Program? DD got in and needs to decide quickly.
  8. Thinking ahead to next year as I may be in this situation, for those that are sending their child(ren) away this year to non-company affiliated programs, how is the housing arranged? Dorms, host families, independent living arrangements?
  9. cclw

    Etiquette on changing studios

    Please don't apologize. I have really, really appreciated everything you have had to say. This bit about finding a supportive and simultaneously rigorous studio has been the very most helpful thing you have said, although I think I kind of knew this was possible, based on DD's summer experience. This evening, she said she wanted to go away. Period. The current studio isn't enough, and the local alternatives are cutthroat and not places she wants to be. Of course she is a teenager, and they blow hot and cold, and she may give me a different story tomorrow. But tonight she is willing to throw all her academic plans and ambitions down the toilet in exchange for that residential option. And this made me realize just how little I want her to move away, and how very much I wish I were convinced that there was an appropriate local alternative. And, honestly, how little faith I have that there will be anything in the area that will give her what she could get at that residential program. She's also stubborn. My guess is that even if there were a great option in the area, she's not going to be able to recognize it, she's so in love with her summer experience. So my husband and I have to decide whether we're willing to let her sacrifice the second half of the academic year we have planned, and if we are, the residential program has to decide if they'll take her halfway through the year. I guess.
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  11. dancemaven

    Anyone taking the residence plunge this fall?

    Nynydancer, don’t be surprised if your offers to volunteer are rebuffed . . . . Just stay calm and repeat “I only want to play baseball” (from movie “Bull Durham”).
  12. Noodles

    Etiquette on changing studios

    The tone is set at the top and trickles down. My DD was on a serious track at a rec school. She moved to a more serious program where she is dancing with aspiring professionals. The directors value these kids for who they are artistically as individuals and they feel that, therefore the dancers are not competitive with each other. They understand that they each have their strengths and their weaknesses and they support each other tremendously. The other school with less (quantity) serious dancers were very competitive with each other, there were always tears over casting...here everyone feels that they have been given what suits them best. You are doing all of the right things to help your kiddo find the right place...keep digging. If there is nothing better (for your DD at this stage of her training) with in a reasonable drive (and don't forget to ask if they have any dancers from your area, carpool could save the day!) then you and your dancer can use this year to gear up for away from home training. Good luck! PS; I am sorry to keep dominating this thread, it is just that I can relate so much to what you and your DD are going through! 😉
  13. smilingcyclist

    Etiquette on changing studios

    I agree and this has been the hardest thing for me with my kids. One is teflon tough and could care less. The other is more like me-sensitive and gets her heart broken. Although I do believe that the softness of her heart is what separates her dancing from her same age peers. And for the OP, hopefully the friendships are strong enough to survive. If not, that is another life lesson. And she is fortunate that she has you to help her through all of this. Change is good!
  14. 5uptown

    Parents of Boys reviews

    Chautauqua Workshop II from the pespective of a 13yo boy: https://dancers.invisionzone.com/topic/9916-chautauqua-reviews-research/?page=6&tab=comments#comment-664930
  15. nynydancer

    Anyone taking the residence plunge this fall?

    learningdance, I agree with you absolutely, and to be honest, I don't believe the gossip I heard AT ALL. I know enough about the kid they were talking about that this was a very unfair/untrue remark, most likely rooted in jealousy. The point of the comment was clearly meant to make me feel bad about my decision to send the kiddos away to this well known school. I just didn't expect the fellow dance parent drama-- it just wasn't a part of my stuff-that-happens-when-they-go mental checklist. There was some surprise, and some love and support, but there was also some cattiness like the comments I mentioned, and flat out "oh good now my daughter can be in snow" type comments that caught me a little off guard. Temps, yeah I will volunteer for sure. It's a great way to give back to the school that nurtured them for so long.
  16. ballet1310

    Etiquette on changing studios

    Cclw - of course I can’t speak to alll schools but dd did not find this to be true for herself and among the many dance friends she has that have ended up in different places ( all top tier schools/companies) this has also not been the case . If your dd wants to be a pro she may need to be somewhere that is more competitive -ballet is not only technically and physically tough , you need to be mentally strong also ... I’m not trying to sound harsh but it is the truth and preparing for that earlier on is actually a blessing
  17. cclw

    Ballet schools in North Carolina

    Thanks. Do you have any sense about the culture at TAD? DD has a friend who left there under unpleasant circumstances, but an acquaintance who left another studio to go there. We are trying to find a studio with a healthy, cooperative spirit rather than a highly competitive one. We are not near the Cary area. In fact, we are in southern Durham. We pulled my daughter out of an academic situation over by Raleigh, to try to cut down on her commute, and now I suspect we're may end up with into a long commute for dance, instead. 😐
  18. cclw

    Etiquette on changing studios

    Thanks, Noodles. It sounds as though you really get it. My DD would be crushed if she lost friends from her current studio, but I think the friendships are deep enough that they will survive. That is actually part of DD's ambivalence; the dancers in her current studio, with very few exceptions, are extremely supportive of one another and she is afraid of ending up in a place where they are more competitive and less kind to one another. Frankly, I love that she cares so much about being in an emotionally healthy environment, although I also understand that some of this may be related to a lack of confidence.
  19. Victoria Leigh

    Hi!

    Welcome, rain. Lots of great info here, and really good help from our groups of parents and moderators! Hope you will enjoy our discussions.
  20. dancemaven

    Asking for a friend

    Parents, please remember this is the YD Forum. You may read, but may not post. Therefore, a post was removed.
  21. Noodles

    Etiquette on changing studios

    I don't mean subpar in an overall sense. I mean specifically for where your dancer is in her training needs currently. My DD had danced at her home studio for 11 years. It was a wonderful place on so many levels, she ( and I) wished that she could have stayed forever and been a celebrated 'graduating senior' with all of her lifelong friends, danced all the roles in Nut, ended her senior year with the lead role of whatever the spring show happened to be etc.. However, her dream is to dance professionally and she knew that the studio simply could not help her reach that goal. She had taken all that they had to offer and in that last year she felt a serious lack of growth and tremendous frustration. Again, there were many positive things about this previous studio and it was hard to give up the safe, comfortable, and predictable for the unknown. But as my wise girl has come to learn, growth comes from stepping outside of your comfort zone. She did just that, and has had a tremendous year, but there were costs...friendships have been lost and that is unfortunate. But her goal is to dance and so she was willing to take the risk. This path that our dancers have chosen is tough, and it is not for the faint of heart. My DD knew at 14 that she needed to leave but it took a year, for various reasons, before she took the plunge and left. Your dancer may not be 100% committed to change yet. Once she is ready emotionally she will take the next steps. In the meantime research, research, research!
  22. Balletmom2000

    Ballet schools in North Carolina

    I would definitely look at Triangle Academy of Dance if you are around the Cary area - their morning program provides really intense training to dancers pursuing a professional path and then flows into a daily program that starts late afternoon each day. They also have the Carolina Youth Ballet company which performs full classical ballets in the fall and spring. The morning program and company teachers are anchored by key Carolina Ballet company members. It's not really a ballet competition school but more focused on preparing dancers for a potential professional career and a glimpse into what company life is really about.
  23. Temps de cuisse

    Anyone taking the residence plunge this fall?

    nynydancer, From a ballet school owner and director...I encourage you to volunteer at your local school/company. We always need help and there is nothing better than an 'alumni' ballet mom to get things done! You know the ropes and are volunteering for the betterment of ballet in your community; not just your DK.
  24. learningdance

    Anyone taking the residence plunge this fall?

    nynydancer. .. there is drama everywhere but "water always seeks it's own level'--- meaning kids who don't like drama typically are not friends with drama queens. And the mean, rude kid is everywhere--home studios as well. Mental toughness is as much of the deal as anything at the 14-18 stage. It's really a set of mental skills that the kids need.
  25. cclw

    Ballet schools in North Carolina

    Thank you. I knew of all of those except Carolina Dance Center, but I will check that one out as well. We agree that all of those studios produce beautiful dancers. It's kind of amazing that there are so many really good studios in our area, although it's frustrating that everything seems to be centered on the eastern end of the Triangle. But as we are thinking about a change of studio, we are looking for insights into the culture of the studios, and would love to hear from people who knew about them personally.
  26. I'm resurrecting this as I read that the official job posting was published just a few days ago. It will be interesting and exciting to follow the new direction!
  27. nynydancer

    Anyone taking the residence plunge this fall?

    Okay here is something I did NOT think about. Losing the community associated with my ballet school. Not being a part of the bustle of starting the new year and the circle of parents. Feeling really left out, but not sure I have it in me to volunteer and help out either. Further, I am getting a little shade about the new school. I was told by a friend that she was discussing with her friends about my dks going away to this new school. She heard that UNNAMED STAR STUDENT from NEW SCHOOL is actually very mean and rude, and some of the kids from the new school were behaving badly at YAGP once. Ai Yai yai. Never felt more lonely! DKs are doing well though!
  28. Eligus

    Etiquette on changing studios

    Well, I'm not sure I subscribe whole-heartedly to the intention behind this thought, but a former teacher of my DD pointed out to me (when I worried about a potential slack of education) that they can only dance ballet for a relatively short amount of their lives, but their minds and education last forever. I was never quite sure how to take that thought. However, it did help remind me that education really is a life-long journey, while ballet has a time crunch built in. I still insisted on a HS diploma before my DD left home, but she could do that with sufficient (if not stellar) home training, combined with a relaxation on my part on the demands more rigorous classes (AP and honors). She wound up condensing her junior and senior years and just taking regular college prep courses. If your DD has different ballet needs (because of a late start) or the home studio is "inefficiently time intensive" you may need to re-shuffle your priorities temporarily in order to allow her to meet the ballet needs first... but that is a very personal decision.
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