Swanilda Posted September 4, 2003 Report Share Posted September 4, 2003 I would be very grateful for some advice-- I am in my last year of school and have been in the top level for the past two. This year, everyone who is in their last year has been moved to the top level. Unfortuantly, this is the school's policy, and it is a difficult one because it means there are now a number of people who are not ready for the work in the top class and are struggling. There is one particular girl who has taken and extreme dislike to me. She has a very difficult time with ballet (being a more contemporary dancer) and uses her time in class to make fun of me, laugh at me and talk about me. She has disliked me since we were freshmen, but I've never had her in ballet or pointe until now, so I've been able to avoid and ignore her. I honestly don't know what to do-- I've tried to be friendly and talk to her, I've tried just avoiding her, nothing seems to work. I've asked others if there is anything I do that might be offending her in some way (giving her some reason to dislike me so much), but no one can understand it. This girl is very loud and rude -- some people find her funny but the majority of people dislike her- yet it's mainly me that she targets. I have a horrible time with this and literally get sick to my stomach before class because she makes me so incredibly uncomfortable. I keep hoping a teacher will say something because she is disruptive to the general class (in addition to creating an atmosphere of tension that you need a chain saw to cut through)-- but so far, no luck. Link to comment
Mel Johnson Posted September 4, 2003 Report Share Posted September 4, 2003 Why worry about a jennyass like her? You have two options, either be sweet as pie to her, which will drive her insane, or ignore her entirely. The latter will be easier on you. Link to comment
Swanilda Posted September 5, 2003 Author Report Share Posted September 5, 2003 I know you're right, and I've been trying to ignore her, but it's really hard to control how much the tension affects me. Link to comment
Mel Johnson Posted September 5, 2003 Report Share Posted September 5, 2003 Just be grateful that this is the last year of school. Look forward to post-graduation and cultivate a mysterious smile that has to do with the thought that you'll never have to see her again after June. Link to comment
Guest HPDancer234 Posted September 5, 2003 Report Share Posted September 5, 2003 Heres a torture method: When she bad-mouths or teases you, glue on a big smile and look at her like shes an idiot. Don't say anything just keep that odd smile. Gets 'em everytime LOL Link to comment
Guest unique Posted September 7, 2003 Report Share Posted September 7, 2003 (edited) My mother always tells me that I am in ballet class for one reason.. to study ballet.. obviously this girl doesn't understand that but you do so I would say just ignore her... she wants you to react to her comments and if you don't that will annoy her... I'm suprised the teacher hasn't said anything.. but for now just work your butt off so she'll see what your really made of. Edited September 7, 2003 by Mel Johnson Link to comment
Mel Johnson Posted September 7, 2003 Report Share Posted September 7, 2003 There's an issue of control over others at work here. The chimps at London Zoo have learned that they can control the visitors by throwing their (the chimps' that is) excrement at them. They get an immediate and vigorous reaction, which they seem to enjoy very much. I think we've come a bit of a distance from chimpanzees; remember them when she tries to annoy you. I guarantee that you will smile. Link to comment
kfw Posted September 7, 2003 Report Share Posted September 7, 2003 Swanilda, it might also help if you remember that people who get off on putting others down usually feel bad about themselves. They may not even admit it to themselves, but they do. Thinks of how sad it must be to have to put someone else down in order to feel better about yourself. Link to comment
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