danceintheblood Posted April 28, 2005 Report Share Posted April 28, 2005 I am getting totally fed up with negative comments being made regarding my daughter's desire to become a dancer!! Yes, she is young (soon to be 12) but she has wanted to be a dancer ever since I can remember and has been extremely firm about this since she was eight. She is now in a vocational progam (six hours per week plus rehearsals) and every term her passion and interest increases. Her ballet teachers consider her to be a student with "enormous potential". This week, I have been relayed comments made by dd's music teacher that she should consider another career as "ballet ruins your body". My dd's take on this was, that as the teacher believes she has ability in music, she would like to see her replace ballet with playing an instrument. Dd's school teacher expressed concerns at the parent teacher interview last December that we appeared to be placing ballet ahead of academic learning. This is NOT the case, but we do support her desire to dance. I spoke with her teacher yesterday and she asked how things were going in regard to dd auditioning for the Australian Ballet School next month. During the conversation she made several comments including "as long as she doesn't put her all her eggs in one basket"; "as long as she keeps her options open" etc. I am absolutely positive that if dd had expressed a desire to become an archeologist and was spending her weekends going on digs, no-one would make similar comments. They wouldn't ask her what 'option B ' was; wouldn't point out the high risk of injury (after all you could fall down a trench); wouldn't say "tsk, tsk, it's very competitive you know - you might not make the cut - what if you don't make it?"; wouldn't say "well, archeologists don't earn much money you know" and we wouldn't be asked as parents why we "let" her spend so much time dancing or why we spend so much money where dance is concerned as there is no guarantee of success. I often get the feeling that 'others' believe it is better to not try at all if there is the slightest risk of what they perceive to be failure. For some reason this week has been the straw that broke the proverbial back - and we have years to go! How do I get others to see it from a different perspective and should I even try? I'm getting tired of being put in positions where I feel we have to justify the choices we are making. Thank-you, thank-you, thank-you for giving me a place to vent!!!! Quote Link to comment
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