My friends dance, but aren't into it!

[Guest pointeshuz&tutuz]

I love ballet, I could dance without stopping all day, and night. My best friend isn't like that. She doesn't seem to love it, she just comes because she has nothing better to do. If she finds somthing better to do, she doesn't come to class that day. It discourages me to have a friend who trys to love dancing, but just can't. She is a great dancer, and I try to help her love it as much as possible, but, I can't seem to do it. Any suggestions?

[Victoria Leigh]

Yes, leave her alone. You can't make her feel the same way you do about ballet, or anything else. Let her do it her way, enjoy it, and not feel any pressure from you to be serious just because you are. Ultimately you will move on and advance and she won't, even if she has the ability. Without the passion, the commitment and the focus, one will not become a dancer no matter how much physical facility is there. Don't mess up a friendship just because her goals are different from yours!

[dance_4_eternity]

I have some friends that quit ballet this year after having an asome time at a SI. I was really suprised and depressed about it, but they weren't that serious about ballet to begin with.

[Tarah]

I know exactly how it is to have people in your class who just don't have a passion for ballet, in fact only myself and skye90 from my ballet class are totally in to it. Some of them even pay out ballet but you just have to learn to look past it and continue with your passion because as all us ballet people know.....it's worth it. Ballet totally rocks

[Guest dancer522]

I'm completely obsessed with ballet, but for a little while recently, I was thinking about maybe quitting. I couldn't imagine living without it, though, so I don't think that would ever happen, but I just wasn't wanting to go to class after school at all. When I thought about it, it wasn't me (because I still dance all over the house and watch ballet videos all the time), but it was that I was so tired from school (just started highschool - I have to get up at 6:00 am, have 5 honors classes, go to dance directly after school most days, and then don't get home until late, when I have to start homework!) and with my new teacher, we do the same combinations for a week straight every day, in order to perfect them, but I was getting bored. I'm over it now - maybe because I've gotten a little more sleep this past week, but I was pretty scared for a while since dance is such a big part of my life... ok sorry to go off on a tangent like that, but I was trying to say that people sometimes have phases, and who knows, maybe she'll like dance more later on, or maybe she's just not letting on that she likes it. Either way, I don't think there's any way you can inspire her to enjoy it as much as you do - you either love it or you don't... actually it's more than loving it, it's like it just fills up a huge section of your life and you can't live without it more than anything... I just can't imagine ever inspiring somebody so much that they start feeling that way about anything. It's kind of like how people will say some things are "aquired tastes", but then why should you have to acquire a taste for it if you don't like it to begin with?

[janninepointe]

=) Same problem here wake up at 6 have 8 classes at school, run to the bus, get to class and am exhausted. It just takes getting used to yours body catches on after a while. To help you can also practise alot and home on days you are free.

[Guest dream]

i think it is awfull for some one that is good not to like it. i love it and i wish i could be able to dance amazingly. but i guess ballet is not for everyone.

[arabesque22]

There are people in my ballet class like that. All of my friends like ballet, but none of them really want to be professional dancers or anything. Theres probably only one girl in my class thats as serious as I am, and it's nice to have a friend that cares as much as I do.

[aletheia146]

Even if you don't want to be a professional, just being able to express emotions through movement and to train your body (no matter how tired after highschool and honors classes ) to be so strong and yet so beautiful...~sigh~ it's too bad they're not as passionate as they could be, especially at their level.

[janninepointe]

C'est la Vie but ballet helps with everyday life alot. Most people doing ballet get very good posture and are fit with strong muscles.

[foreveranne]

Considering that our class is at the high intermediate level, probably half of my dance class are like that. They are just dancing because they HAVE to. This is an easy class for them because it's at school.. and grading are to me, a bit easy. You just be present and working in dance. So everyone wants to dance because its an easy class to get an A without actually TRYING. You see I feel the same as you but I think the best way is just to ignore them and don't get caught up missing classes WITH them. Yeah.