Shuffle Posted March 27, 2006 Report Share Posted March 27, 2006 You know, you can marry someone and not really know everything about them. I took modern dance and some ballet when I was in University. I really enjoyed it but perhaps it was a bias of mine I didn't recognize, I just didn't take it seriously enough to devote more commitment to it. Ended up in a profession, which is fine. Anyway, got married, had kids, prospered, even survived cancer. Well, in 2000 after taking yoga for a sore back for a number of years, I took a yoga class at at a dance school and saw the ballet class going on. I thought, at 39 I bet I could still do that, and with the benefit of having done weight training and yoga, was still fit enough to do a good job at it. So I joined a nearby school and took classes. Work and family interrupted my attendance a number of times. Having surgery for cancer interrupted it for a year. But I persisted around taking the kids to soccer etc. and was improving, getting faster and more precise in my steps, more coordinated and at ease in longer combinations; even able to piroette relatively well. Turns out (after being subjected to the stress of going through some lengthy and difficult house renovations) that my wife really hates that I am taking ballet. It turns out she finds it embarassing that it isn't really a manly thing to do. So for the sake of the relationship at a tough time (which I guess ultimately has priority over an avocation) I'm taking a break from it. Anyone else facing this? Any suggestions? I've tried to explain that it is about being manly (at least the male dancer is to appear manly), it is physically challenging, it is good for fitness (helped clear up a nagging sore low back) and wearing tights is something almost every athlete does now. But she doesn't like that I wear tights, doesn't like the little black slippers I wear, that I'm the only man in the class and that ballet still has some 'stigma'. I guess I'm looking for someone to commiserate with who might be in the same boat: having to check their enthusiasm because the rest of their life just keeps failing to mesh with their hobby. Anyway, nice group, good information. Take care, Shuffle Quote Link to comment
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