TyneeDancer Posted August 25, 2006 Report Share Posted August 25, 2006 Okay so I went to this studio last year, I loved my teachers. My mom decided to start her own studio. My mom volunteered a lot at the studio. They got really mad at her for starting her own studio. Meanwhile my teachers quite and started their own studio. Both of them are acting very immature and inappropriatly for groen women (lying, bribing...) They knew about my mom's studio so no effort was made to try and get us to come to their studio, but all of my friends from the old studio are moving to the their' studio. While all this is happening I took a SI at Grand Rapids Ballet Co. I suddenly realized how horrible the quilty of teaching was with the teachers I had. Now my friend is all signed up these teachers thinking they're getting the best teaching blah blah blah while I know they aren't. Should I say anything, and if so what? This is probably really confusing but that's my dilemma. All advice welcome Link to comment
Administrators Victoria Leigh Posted August 25, 2006 Administrators Report Share Posted August 25, 2006 TyneeDancer, the dilemma is your post. I'm afraid that it is totally confusing. Please slow down and edit it so that we can understand it. Are you attending your Mother's studio? Is your Mother a professioanl Dancer/Teacher? What are the options for your friend? Link to comment
TyneeDancer Posted August 30, 2006 Author Report Share Posted August 30, 2006 ok so I'm going to my moms studio and GRBC for classes, my mom is starting the company because we had such a bad experience at our last studio and she wants to share dance without as much of the politcal stuff as possible. We have a lady working with us went to Julliard and has worked with Disney, she is helping with all the advertising and scheduling stuff. As for our friends they are choosing the studio our teachers started because they have been fooled into thinking they are getting the best dance education available. It is however very apparent to me and my mom that the teachers are only in it for the money not the joy of teaching dance at all. What makes matters worse is our last studio was supposed to be a Christian studio. Both of the owners and the teachers now starting a studio have acted in a way very unbecoming of people claiming to be Christians. It is all to clear they are all in it for the money and nothing else. I hope this is a bit clearer, if not i'd be happy to clarify. Link to comment
Administrators Victoria Leigh Posted August 31, 2006 Administrators Report Share Posted August 31, 2006 That is somewhat clearer, however I really do not think that there is anything you can do about the choices your friends make. Right or wrong, you make your choice and they make theirs. If you don't care for what the other teachers are doing, fine, but evidently it is not a problem for your friends. Life is full of things people disagree about, however, it does not mean that they can't be friends. Link to comment
TyneeDancer Posted August 31, 2006 Author Report Share Posted August 31, 2006 What about one of the teachers calling a a friend of mine every day trying to convince her to go to her studio. My friend isn't sure which studio she wants to go to. She says she'll feel bad if she doesn't go to their studio because the teacher will be upset. But she knows that this teacher is not someone she should be around. Link to comment
SugarPlumFairy1 Posted August 31, 2006 Report Share Posted August 31, 2006 well in my opinion I think it is her desition(sp) to make. Just remind her if she does not go to that studio she does not have to face those teachers to see their anger ever. Thats what I told myself when I quit swim team, my coach was a jerk to me the whole time I was on the team but, I knew once I quit and got it over with I would never have to face him again. hope that helps Link to comment
Administrators Victoria Leigh Posted September 1, 2006 Administrators Report Share Posted September 1, 2006 If this helps, it is highly unethical for a teacher to be calling students to come and study with them. If someone was doing that to me, I would turn and go in the other direction very quickly. Link to comment
Momof3darlings Posted September 1, 2006 Report Share Posted September 1, 2006 Knock-knock Tynee--I would imagine that your friends feel caught in the middle of an unpleasant situation. And they feel pressure to please you their friend and also their teachers. Maybe it is time for you to just step aside, and encourage them to make whatever decision is the best for them personally and tell them that you will still love them no matter which decision they make. Encourage them to take a phone call free couple of days from you and the other teachers to think out what it is they desire away from that pressure. I know you are not trying to pressure your friends, but the situation itself even in the best of times is a tough one. Give them the facts about what your studio will offer, who the teachers will be and let things work from there. Some of your friends may come and others not. But you will feel better yourself. It's your mom so you have an allegiance already in place. Link to comment
TyneeDancer Posted September 1, 2006 Author Report Share Posted September 1, 2006 She called last night and decided to come with us but now one of the girls that we both knew from our old studio is calling being all friendly to her. She wanted my friend to drive her to the studio because she can't drive yet, it would be totally out of my friends way and the girl knows that. She's spying now. Trying to get information for the teachers. When she called to tell the teacher she wouldn't be attending there the teacher got really nasty with her saying how dissapointed she was and how my friend just didn't want to work hard(the teacher is really negative when confronted). Not half an hour after this conversation the girl called to get my friends number. Link to comment
SugarPlumFairy1 Posted September 1, 2006 Report Share Posted September 1, 2006 Well the car pulling deal I think wont work, because as you said it is out of your freinds way to drop off that other girl and It sounds like shes trying to make your friend feel bad. I dont think she wants to be bothered with someone who is going to do that. About what you said the teacher said to your freind, you will sooner or later be faced with a person like that. As I said with my swim coach he was nasty to me and my mother. When my mom told him I would no longer swim for the team he would use the qoute "well the dedicated swimmers" everytime my mom would say well this sceduale is too much for her she's stressed out and has a lot of school work and she wants to pass, not with a C's with A's and B's. So everyone faces at one pointe as I call them a "Sargent Slauter". (my dad came up with that, the fact that my ex coach was in the army is what influenced the word sargent.) Hope I did't get to off topic if so tell me and I will edit. Link to comment
Administrators Victoria Leigh Posted September 1, 2006 Administrators Report Share Posted September 1, 2006 This is a topic that has nothing to do with ballet technique or performance, and is rolling over into chat. Take it to the Buddy Board. Thread closed. Link to comment
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