taxis Posted September 25, 2008 Report Share Posted September 25, 2008 Help! I am hoping some more experienced parents and moderators can provide some insight here. My DD is 14 and a sophomore this year in high school. She is experiencing several new challenges this year and perhaps it is common for students of this age and it will blow over. First of all, academics have stepped up this year and she has an average of 2 hours of homework per night even with a daily study hall. Her daily schedule is: up at 6:15, leaves for school at 7:00, home from school at 3:30 unless I pick her up which I can only do on a limited basis. Two days a week she leaves for dance at 3:50 and returns home at 7:30'ish. The other two week days she leaves for dance at 5:15 and returns home at 9-9:30 depending. So when she gets home she still needs to eat, shower and do homework. Doing homework in the car is difficult for her as she gets motion sickness but she does try but I don't think it is very effective. She told me and I can sense it that when she knows she has lots of homework waiting at home she can't enjoy or really concentrate in class because that is nagging at her the whole time. Fast forward to last night on the ride home and she is telling me how her Wednesday teacher gives the exact same class every week, same music etc, same corrections to the class. She is frustrated by the lack of perceived interest on the part of this teacher. And frankly I've observed these classes and sense a lack of teaching passion here- as do other parents. It is her only dedicated pointe class. She has another teacher on Mondays that none of the girls like his teaching style and some have even dropped the class. She describes his style as not making sense- ie: combinations put together in a way that doesn't work with the music and so forth ( I really don't get what she means but other girls have complained of the same thing). Her other teacher, who is AD, she has for her three other days and likes her and the classes. Top it all off with how much she loved her SI this summer and the training/teaching she received there and she is unhappy at best comparing the two. She is also feeling very worried/frustrated that she is continuing to fall behind other girls her age due to a general lack of hours and intensity. She dances 5 days a week with 1.5 hours of technique + variations one day, 1 hour pointe another and a "workshop" on another that is a 6 week course in alternative styles (modern, jazz etc. that rotates). She then has several hours of Nutcracker rehearsal that will start this weekend. So there are many issues here to deal with- difficulty managing school work, two classes she isn't so fond of and not enough hours of dance to continue to progress for her age. I know other parents go through this with their children but how do you help. I am trying to help her learn to manage her time better although she seems to do all the suggestions I come up with, there simply aren't enough hours in the day! As far as the teaching issues, I listen patiently because sometimes teenagers just need to get it off their chest but I seriously feel like this is starting to effect how she is doing in class. She is at the only pre-pro school in the area that offers enough classes and level of training so changing schools is not an option locally. I don't feel it is appropriate to speak with the AD about the other two teachers as she hired them and must be aware of their teaching styles, not to mention it can't be remedied this year anyway. Sorry for the long post but this has been simmering for three weeks now and I thought it would work itself out but seems to be only getting worse. Quote Link to comment
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