Amylynn Posted June 2, 2009 Report Share Posted June 2, 2009 I have been struggling through taking my daughter out of a studio she has been training in for a year. My husband and I made the decision with our dd (16 this month) for so many reasons but mostly because she was losing her joy and we knew she needed our help to find the courage to leave. When we found the ballet studio after we move here from the south we were glad to find a small place where she could take classes- she was recovering from some difficult situtations at her last large company based school and needed a breather. The teacher we found at this studio was amazing and extremely gifted and told us she wanted to train her and that our dd could be a professional dancer if she really wanted it. At the time I don't think my daughter really knew what she wanted but we decided to let her study with this woman who was passionate and attentive to our daughter. Our dd agreed to train for the Grand Prix competition for next year. She has improved her technique and beauty as a dancer and it is truly amazing how much stronger she has become physically and emotionally. She is a very respectful, hard working girl who does love to dance and has a gift for it. She works hard. The problem is sometimes the teacher has been tough and her intensity was questionable but it began to feel like a job for my dd and she never wanted to go...the last 6 months it has gotten worse because she was cast to play the lead role in Cappelia (forgive me if I spelled it wrong) and the school is small and I am not even sure how they were going to pull it off. They booked a large theatre in a nearby city and the date was set for October. This is still 4 months away after working on the same performance for the last 5-6 months! My husband and I were planning to meet with them and let them know that we really needed set breaks in the school year- our daughter was burning out. They run the studio month to month billing so there is no summer break or much of any for that matter! Its nuts when you think about it?! We decided after much prayer and talking with our dd that it was not a healthy/good situation for her any more and we knew she might just quit dancing altogether because of all the pressure. I just wanted to see the light in her eyes again from dance! One thing I was led to do before our decision had been made to leave was to take her to another school for an audition. I wanted to see how she would do and to remind her there were other places where she might find the joy again. The girls there were so kind to her and just being around a bunch of girls did her a world of good! I did not even realize that she was auditioning for a professional training program! She was asked to join the school's professional division program. It is every day 12:30 to 6:30 with 3 performances a year. We are very proud of her and she was pretty excited about her accomplishment- she is not really sure if she wants to commit to it yet but wants to go try a class next week. We decided to make the break with her current studio and they are very upset. I have been as gracious as possible and explained that we needed to give our daughter time to make some big decisions about her future and if she wants to continue ballet training. I explained how unhappy she was and needed a break. While I do believe her teacher is sad and cares for her it seems the focus is mostly on her performance in October and if she did this she would be stuck for several months still...and unhappy. No contracts were signed...no "student handbooks" ever given out-no yearly schedules for the school, in fact NOTHING EVER ON PAPER. I feel bad about letting them down but honestly isn't it about our daughter and her life? They should have laid it all out in the beginning and had understudies!!! To top it off they were billing us $1000.00 for a production fee out of nowhere!? Forgive me for my lengthy post. I guess I just need to know if any of you parents have been through anything similar and if you understand or if I am missing something here....I know in my heart we need to take care of our daughter and she is asking us to. I just feel torn about it all. Thanks ahead of time for reading this and if you have any advice I would love it! Quote Link to comment
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